[Ask Ustaz] 4 Signs Your Partner Is Affected by Separation Sihr

In building a happy and harmonious household, many things are faced to find understanding and live happily ever after. However, there are individuals who arbitrarily destroy the happiness of a family built by using despicable methods, namely using separation sihr! There are no longer seeds of love, affection, intimacy, and all that remains is hatred, disgust, and quarrels. Join us as we delve into the topic of Separation Sihr, the Destroyer of Households, with Ustaz Hanafiah bin Abdul Malek, a preacher and practitioner of Islamic medicine. 

Separation Sihr is sihr used to separate married couples or fiancés/fiancées. From intending to marry, it doesn't happen. When intending to get engaged, it doesn't happen. In Surah Al-Baqarah, verse 102, there is the story of Harut and Marut, where these angels opposed the sihr that occurred during that era, and among them was separation sihr. 

“And they followed [instead] what the devils recited during the reign of Solomon. It was not Solomon who disbelieved, but the devils disbelieved, teaching people magic and that which was revealed to the two angels at Babylon, Harut and Marut. But neither of these two taught anyone until they had said, "We are only a trial, so do not disbelieve [by practicing magic]." And [yet] they learn from them that by which they cause separation between a man and his wife. But they do not harm anyone through it except by permission of Allah. And they learn that which harms them and does not benefit them. But they had already known that whoever bought it would have no share in the Hereafter. And wretched is that for which they sold themselves, if they only knew.” (Surah Al-Baqarah: verse 102)

Regarding this matter, we have sought the opinion of Ustaz Hanafiah bin Abdul Malek, or affectionately known as Ustaz Hanafi, and there are signs you can observe if a couple is affected by separation sihr. 

4 Signs You Are Affected by Separation Sihr

• No more feelings of love towards spouse
• Sudden change in attitude

For example, a change in attitude from loving to hateful. 

• Loss of desire or falling ill.

For example, unable to have intercourse with a partner, but when seeing others, the individual becomes aroused. Or there are situations where the married couple is about to have intercourse but cannot. 

• The wife develops a foul smell (fishy smell) on her body or private parts.  

Watch the ikhlas.com interview video delving into Ustaz Hanafi's experience in Islamic medicine to remove separation sihr on ikhlas.com Youtube channel

How long does it take to treat sihr and is one treatment enough? 

Ustaz Hanafi said, based on his experience in Islamic medicine, treatment needs to be done repeatedly, and some have lasted for several years. An interesting fact you should know is, sometimes they themselves do not believe they have been affected by separation sihr. They often quarrel and blame each other. 

Ustaz will advise couples affected by sihr “What's wrong with us trying to bathe first, and after bathing they will feel different, Alhamdulillah (Praise be to Allah).” Ustaz also added, usually after the couple bathes, they themselves voluntarily opt for repeated treatments until they recover. 

Treatment alone cannot cure oneself from sihr. The individual needs to add more practices like dhikr, right? 

1. Before marriage, practice the prayer that our spouse becomes a comfort to our eyes and we become leaders of the righteous.

And those who say, "Our Lord, grant us from our wives and our offspring comfort to our eyes and make us an example for the righteous."” (Surah Al-Furqan: verse 74)

2. Upholding Islamic law 

For example, observing prayers, because prayer will change us gradually and bring us closer to Allah SWT. This is because those who are close to Allah SWT will be under His protection and care. 

3. Joint effort between a healer and the sihr victim

In the healer's effort to remove sihr from the victim's body, the individual must also strive and undertake other means to protect themselves and strengthen their own defenses so as not to be affected by separation sihr again. 

4. Recite surahs and Ayatul Kursi

Among other practices that can be done is reading the following surahs: 

1. Surah Al-Ikhlas, Al-Falaq, and An-Nas should be recited repeatedly. 
2. Surah Al-Baqarah
3. After prayer, recite Ayatul Kursi

If a married couple does not recover from sihr, should they be patient or is it better to divorce just to recover from the sihr?  

Ustaz Hanafi briefly replied, “If it's no longer possible, so divorce, because with divorce, the sihr is nullified. After divorcing, seek treatment.” Ustaz Hanafi continued, “Because in this situation, people want us to surrender, so we surrender. In some situations, ustaz-s will use tricky methods such as using frankincense smoke and eggs in treatment because these are food for jinns. And when we use that smoke and eggs, the jinns will supposedly come to eat. With that, the jinn has left, and one can focus on the body or the person who was afflicted by sihr. However, Ustaz only uses kaffir lime and regular lime.” 

3 Tips to Avoid Being Affected by Separation Sihr

• Seek blessings from parents 
• Seek mercy from Allah SWT 

For example, observing acts of worship such as prayer, dhikr, repentance, good deeds, and staying away from shirk (associating partners with Allah). 

• Follow what Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) taught for self-protection:

Recite 10 times in the morning and 10 times at night so that Allah SWT protects and strengthens faith in Allah SWT. 

Why is sihr easily transmitted to people through food?

Food enters the body and becomes human flesh and blood. Sihr that enters the body is difficult to treat.

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